As men, we have a tendency to hide our pain from others. We like to show off a strong impervious armor to others when deep down we can be experiencing a tremendous amount of pain.
Hiding our pain can even extend to hiding our pain from God. Pain ultimately creates vulnerability and that vulnerability can manifest in lies and other forms of sin. We can choose to be vulnerable with God or we can choose to be vulnerable to sin.
It is up to us to search our souls and share our pain with God. Don't avoid your pain don't ignore your sin; face it head on bringing it to God in Confession and remember that you are not alone in your pain, God is right there with you.